Soft skill versus Wisdom

I usually speak shortly and look tough but really love flowers especially lotus.

Perhaps, I am being a female now. I am still remember that last 17 years ago vulnerable Pha out taw ya sayadaw gave explanation about relationship of cause and effect to two young girls who came and paid respects him while he was warded in a hospital. One girl is stout, healthy and strong and another looks soft, pretty. Dagama you might donate the food to Buddha generously to the first one and you might donate the nice flowers and stuffs to Buddha in your past to the latter one. Said sayadaw.

As sayadaw said the latter girl who loves flowers much hate to watch violence movie, to stay in noisy environment. When she becomes a teacher, wants to speak softly to her students.
However, It is difficult to keep to maintain her soft skill currently.